Dispatches from a Dying Empire

Dispatches from a Dying Empire

Toxic people

They exist, but you don't have to tolerate them in your life

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Jun 08, 2019
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“People with big problems deserve attention, but past experiences and dramas don’t absolve them from making the effort to work on their problems instead of attempting to pull others into their issues and dramas.” — Abigail Brenner, M.D.

What is a toxic person? Modified from an article by Abigail Brenner, here are eight things to look for:

1. Toxic people are manipulative. A toxic person’s primary mission is to get what they want from you, or to get you to do what they want you to do.

2. Toxic people are judgmental. They criticize everything, even when no good reason for criticism exists.

3. Toxic people never take responsibility. It is always your fault, or someone else’s fault.

4. Toxic people don’t apologize. Why would they? It isn’t their fault.

5. Toxic people are inconsistent. Reality changes to suit a toxic person’s needs. Everything else is “fake news.”

6. Toxic people are never satisfied. You will never do anything well enough to make them happy in the long-term.

7. Toxic people deman…

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